Seizing the sexual day

I mentioned a few weeks ago that I had decided to discuss sexual fantasy, specifically my cock-sucking fantasy, with my wife.

I did so with some trepidation but I chose to do it because none of the alternatives (gay porn, prostitutes, going behind her back in some other way, living with my unfulfilled fantasy festering in my mind), were remotely attractive. As I said in my previous post, the result was a positive conversation which has, for the moment at least, enhanced our sex life in plenty of ways.

I never imagined my wife would be comfortable with me buying and using two dildos and those dildos becoming a part of our mutual sex play. I never imagined my wife being comfortable doing some of the things she did to me with those dildos last week.

But then, I hadn't asked previously. I was having this discussion on Sunday with another sex-mad strokie. She commented that some strokies are afraid of opening that door with their significant other, thinking that they might think differently of them. Well, that definitely hasn't been the case with me. I made up my mind to do it, did it and I'm reaping the sexual rewards.

It might not be as easy for others as it was for me but if you don't ask, you'll never find out. And as yet-another sex-mad strokie (there are lots of us about) told me, coming as close to death as we have makes you want to seize the sexual day whenever you can.

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